The deep Throat is one of the fantasies more common among men, since they enjoy how their partner introduces the entire member to the mouth; however, for those who perform this act, things are not so simple.
It takes a lot of practice and skill to make this act pleasurable and not cause nausea or retching. For this reason, the sexologists Norma Bejarano and Eirelyn Gómez give us some advice.
What is the deep throat technique about?
The sexologist Norma Bejarano indicated that this technique came from the scenes of the traditional pornwhich implies that the pleasure is behind the mouth, in the hood, so the technique consists of inserting the entire penis as far as the person performing fellatio can withstand.
“This practice is not what you see in porn, since it requires practice, training, and not everyone can achieve it because of that gag reflex”, mentioned Bejarano.
Likewise, Eirelyn Gómez pointed out that this pleasure in men is due to the fact that “a large part of the penis is covered, in addition to the fact that the sensation of heat, humidity and tightness is what gives them more pleasure and pressure.”
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How do I prevent nausea or retching in deep throat?
Although gagging is a natural physiological response that our body makes to avoid drowning, Dr. Norma Bejarano recommended that first you have to recognize why nausea occurs at the time of fellatio.
“It may be because you have prejudices about the oral sex and thinks it is dirty or bad. It may be a hygienic issue or because it is sensitive to flavors and odors,” said Bejarano.
If not for the first The second thing to locate, before performing the deep throat, is where the arcades begin; that is, if they occur at the base of the tongue, back of the throat, or on the soft palate.
For this, the specialists suggested placing the index finger inside the mouth, with the tongue behind the teeth, to know how far one is able to introduce something without producing the arcade.
“Open your mouth in front of the mirror, expand your palate up and your tongue down. This is the way in which you should always place your tongue and mouth during the deep throat”, said Eirelyn Gómez.
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Once this has been proven, it can be put into practice. Gómez commented that to help control the reflex when stimulating the throat, you should join the index and middle fingers to the back of your mouth, while you breathe by taking air with your mouth and holding with your nose for five seconds. In this way you will avoid the feeling of suffocation. Then remove your fingers to take a breath and continue with the method.
“If you have a phallic toy, all the better, as the practice will become more real,” Eirelyn said.
Recommendations for a deep throat
The sexologists provided these tips to keep in mind during this practice:
- Control breathing: You should breathe clearly through the nose. You can do workouts, like holding your breath for four seconds and then taking a deep breath and resting.
- Provide throat space: the neck must be well stretched so that the throat has a chance to expand and receive better breathing.
- Go from less to more: You can start practicing with normal oral sex and little by little you introduce the penis to her throat. It is better that she controls the rhythm of the fellatio.
- Use your hand to control the depth of penetration: this in case you reach a point that you can no longer tolerate.
- Have the correct angle and posture: these factors depend on the shape of the penis; that is, if it is curved or tilted to one side. In this way, it will be possible to accommodate better and avoid arches.
- Let it salivate: don’t worry if you spill a lot of slime. It is better for it to be stimulated.
- Hygiene: This is essential for the comfort of the person who is going to give fellatio.
- Breaks: take breaks to rest your neck.
- big penis: if the member is very long, you can help yourself with your hands.
- Flavoring condom: if the person is disgusted, you can use flavored condoms.
- Diversify: In oral sex you can not only use your mouth, but also help yourself with your hands or fingers.
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Deep Throat Positions
If you want to carry it out in bed, the sexologist Gómez explained that these two options have to be considered:
- Lie on your back, place several pillows under your head, while he should kneel on top, hugging your torso with his knees and thighs.
- Stick your head out to one side and stay with your neck on the edge of the bed. Meanwhile, he will be standing to penetrate your mouth. The purpose of this position is for the mouth and throat to be aligned.
The Spiderman position. Photo: collective culture
In case you want to do it on your knees, keep in mind the following:
- Kneel down, arch your back backwards (try to prioritize your comfort), separate your knees. You can put pillows under them so you don’t get hurt if they hit the floor. Keep your ankles together, put your head back and go through the motions, put your tongue in the proper position and hold your breath through your nose.
Deep throat pose. Photo: @amigaaminhamedisse
Oral sex is for pleasure, not to please
Both specialists recalled that the oral sex It is not an obligation, but an option. Thus, communication in this practice is essential, especially when expressing what we like and what we don’t.
“It is important to validate what the other person feels. If my partner does not like deep throating, well, we are going to do other types of techniques that can be performed, ”said the sexologist Eirelyn.
They also commented that the sex real is not like porn, since some men have the fetish of seeing women choke, tear and salivate, but sometimes this generates anguish in them.
“This one teaches us that women put up with everything, that —in sex— women have to cry and enjoy themselves, and that’s really not pleasant. Like any sexual practice, it must be consensual”, Gómez concluded.
Tips before practicing oral sex
- Consent: You shouldn’t do it if you don’t want to, nor should you pressure someone to do it. Also, during the act, the person with a penis must not ejaculate in the mouth of the person performing oral sex if the latter has not previously authorized it.
- Hygiene: It is important to have good hygiene in the penis, mainly with water and neutral soap, so that the organ does not have a bad taste or bacteria. Also, the mouth of the person who is going to perform this practice must be just as hygienic.
- Protection: Through oral sex you can also contract sexually transmitted diseases. For this reason, you should also use a condom if he is not your stable partner.
- Sensitive areas: Keep in mind that the area of the frenulum and the glans penis are sensitive, so you should not bite hard or make sudden and rapid movements with your hand.
- Communication: Ask what he likes best (fast, slow, with hands or without hands) and also what will it consist of and what is the goal (if he wants to ejaculate or if it will only be before intercourse).